Trans couple has second child via surrogate using father's eggs

Transgender couple Jake and Hannah Graf, stars of the 2020 Channel 4 documentary "Our Baby: A Modern Miracle," recently welcomed their second child into the world.

Jake Graf, an actor, writer and film director, had previously made the decision to have eggs harvested during a pause in hormone therapy, which were then fertilized by a sperm donor two years before meeting Hannah, according to The Daily Mail.

The couple have two children by the same surrogate, a woman called Laura, who they say gave them "the most amazing gifts…entirely altruistically."

Recounting some of what they believe to be the prejudiced ideas about their family, the Grafs told the Daily Mail that "one of the more wildly fanciful among them is that they will raise their children to be transgender, which, the Grafs point out, is no more possible than raising your child to be gay."

There is strong evidence of a social contagion factor when it comes to children and adolescents identifying as transgender, and an absence of evidence that homosexuality is socially contagious.

Jake went on to say: "We're just normal — not the freaks and weirdos we're made out to be. People make ill-informed judgments based on prejudices without even talking to us."

"As parents ourselves we know we have to respect our children's individuality. But, honestly, we would never choose for them to be trans. It's a very hard life. You face more hatred and prejudice and it's vastly more complicated to have a family."

In an interview with Channel 5 News, Jake said "I've wanted to be a father all my life."

"I think people expect us to have rainbow flags draped all over the house and to be bringing up the kids gender-neutral, which has never occurred to us. I love Millie in pink. She wears it all the time."

The theme of clothing recurs later in the Daily Mail article, when Jake is reminiscing about childhood and "unshakeable conviction" of having "a boy's brain inside a girl's body from the age of two or three."

"When my mum put me into a dress I was very miserable. I just wanted to enjoy my childhood dressing as a little boy and calling myself by a boy's name, but my parents, unaware of what transgender even meant, had no means to properly support me. My childhood was filled with anxiety and misery because I kept telling people I was a boy and no one was listening," Jake said.

Hannah, who in the documentary describes the transition from a male officer to a female officer as "literally an overnight thing," now feels "ill at ease in female-only spaces" and "was afraid to be in a women's ward after Teddie's birth" and describes being "all too aware that there might be someone who thought I didn't belong, as a trans woman, on a labour ward, and in the current culture might be emboldened to kick up a fuss."

Hannah also avoids female changing rooms, saying "I pose absolutely no threat to anyone but I don't use them now. If I go in to change after a spinning class at the gym there's nothing to stop someone calling security."

On the subject of changing rooms, Jake had this to say: "It's transgender women who are, by and large, the targets...You don't hear much about transgender men like me. But if Hannah shouldn't be allowed in women's changing rooms, logically I shouldn't be allowed into men's. And who wants me in a women's changing room?"

Jake has clearly overlooked the fact that females pose no threat to males in male-only spaces.

Jake would also "happily sit down and reason with JK Rowling because I think she'd be hard-pressed to be rude to our faces."

That would be the same JK Rowling who said: "I respect every trans person's right to live any way that feels authentic and comfortable to them. I'd march with you if you were discriminated against on the basis of being trans. At the same time, my life has been shaped by being female. I do not believe it's hateful to say so."